What Does a Postpartum Doula Do?

Sometimes Postpartum Doulas themselves struggle to explain what they do, why their support matters and what it looks like. The most common answers include something like “emotional support, baby care and light housekeeping”, but that doesn’t come close to what Postpartum Doula support feels like. It doesn’t explain what makes us different from a night nanny or a newborn care specialist. It isn’t as easy to put into words as Birth Doula support, but it’s just as important if not moreso.

Postpartum Doulas build relationships with their clients and families. They get into the heart work that parenting a new baby is and come alongside families as they adjust and learn their babies. When emotions are raw and recovery from birth is hard, when no one is sleeping and roles have changed overnight, our Postpartum Doulas ease anxiety and instill confidence.

Do we sometimes do light housekeeping or assemble baby gear? Absolutely, but it doesn’t look like a chore list when we come in the door. It looks a lot like the attuning we do emotionally and anticipating the needs of everyone in the family. It looks like helping a new dad feel confident with baby wearing, so we strap on the Lille carrier and he wears a giant pickle jar while the baby naps. If I’m at an overnight shift and everyone is sleeping, I’ll look around the kitchen and see what needs to be done before I head in to rest myself. If I know trash day is Wednesday, I’ll empty diaper pails on Tuesday night after everyone is settled. If I see there are towels in the dryer, I’ll fold them while the bottle warmer runs it’s 4 minute cycle and then feed the baby. If it’s a day shift and I notice the same linens on my client’s bed from last week, I’ll strip the bed and put fresh sheets on while we talk and she feeds the baby. Some of the deepest heart-to-heart conversations I have with clients happen while we both fold baby clothes on the couch or they have a bite to eat while I wash bottles and pump parts. Often it’s holding a tiny baby, so her parents can shower or have a nap at the end of our shift together.

Sometimes a client will ask me to look at the baby's latch or help with breastfeeding positions, so I will, but once they’re settled and feeding I don’t go off in search of chores to do. I’ll climb up in the bed with them or sit on the floor next to their chair, to ask the important questions…”What do you feel like you’re doing really well this week?...What are you struggling with the most with this week?...How is communication going with your partner right now?...How is big sister/brother adjusting to the new baby?...What can I do to help you feel at peace today?” Then I listen, without judgment and we truly connect.

We fill in the household gaps and help to create routines that fit each family, but we also open dialogue about hard things and validate feelings. We teach parents how to be the expert in their baby and trust their instincts. We guide them to learn their baby’s cues and feel just as capable as we are. Postpartum Doulas foster relationships, but we also foster rest, healing, and bonding. We create a safe place where tears can flow, parents can truly enjoy their babies and confidence grows with each visit. 

Schedule your phone consultation today to see how our Postpartum Doulas can support you. 

Attuned Doula Services Featured in Voyage Dallas Magazine

Voyage Dallas Magazine features “The Most Inspiring Stories in Dallas” in their online publication. They truly capture the voice and spirit of local small business owners, freelancers and artists. We had the opportunity to share our story this month and in return, we were able to nominate some of our favorite entrepreneurs in DFW. We hope to see them featured soon!

“…My pregnancy with her was physically very difficult, but from a rehabilitation standpoint, I was doing great. She made me realize that I wanted to do everything I could to get back to my career as a doula and to give expecting families the same nonjudgmental, compassionate support I had been given. I wanted to leave a legacy for her and show her that no matter what obstacles come her way, she has everything within her needed to power on and persevere. Attuned Doula Services was born out of a desire to meet new parents where they are, reduce their fears and instill confidence as they navigate pregnancy, birth and the early months of parenting.”

To read the rest of our story, click here. Thank you so much to Voyage Dallas and to Dr. Amber Galipp of Legacy Family Chiropractic for nominating us.

#TBT to 2012: My "Why" for Doula Work

“Through that surgery and the life-threatening complications that followed, I learned what truly nonjudgmental support can do for healing.”

Today marks the start of World Doula Week, where we focus on the work doulas do to improve the social, emotional, physiological and psychological wellbeing of whole families. From pregnancy, to birth and then to the postpartum period, doulas take care of their clients. For most doulas, it feels like a calling or a passion that sparks a career. It takes a heart of service and usually a story about why we decided to become a doula. My story started one way and had a pretty big plot twist.

I became a doula in 2010 because I loved studying everything about pregnancy, birth and babies in college. My “why” was a passion for everything I was learning about birth and babies in my undergrad internship at a birth center in Denton and a natural ability to support others. I was the person who my friends and family came to for advice about pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding and it felt like a natural career choice.

Here comes the real #TBT though…back to 2012. I had been a doula for 2 years and was working as a newborn nanny. I had a car accident and herniated two discs in my back worse than I knew. After a night in the ER for pain and subsequently losing the feeling in my legs and ability to walk altogether, I was admitted to the hospital. For 5 days, I laid in a hospital bed not knowing if I would walk again or if the pain in my back would ever go away. My mom and roommate (turned rock star postpartum doula), Samantha were there with me when the spine surgeon came in to tell us a 360 2-level spinal fusion was my option to regain function in my legs.

Through that surgery and the life-threatening complications that followed, I learned what truly nonjudgmental support can do for healing. For 37 days in the hospital, my mom, my friends and my nurses and doctors safeguarded my dignity, listened to my fears, reassured me and respected my wishes. They trusted me to make the best decisions for myself. Shoutout to all of the nurses on the med-surg unit at Texas Health Presbyterian Flower Mound. I had nurses lift me into wheelchairs and hold me on toilets and in showers, so I didn’t have to use a bed pan and could bathe myself. I had a certified nursing assistant French braid my hair because it had been a knotted mess for days. My mom listened and got me every snack I wanted when I cried and cursed in pain and frustration. She held my hair when I got sick and patted my leg when neither of us had the words to describe how scared we were. She put on a gown and mask to be there while they placed a picc line in ICU, never leaving my side. Samantha held my hand all night, so I could sleep through the hallucinations from my pain pump and helped me laugh again…and again. My surgeons fixed my spine and then went on to save my life. They answered every question, gave me a realistic idea of my new normal and had my back, literally and figuratively. 

I went into doula work because I loved birth and babies, but I’m still in doula work because I now know the difference nonjudgmental support can make. I remember how I was treated through one of the most intense experiences of my life and I want to give that same level of care to each of my clients. When you’re at your most vulnerable, you deserve the very best support and that’s my “why” as a doula. 

New Parents, You Are So Brave

As I look back on the last year and reflect on all of the families who welcomed new babies, I keep coming back to the word brave. As doulas we get to see bravery come in so many different forms and it’s striking even in the simplest moments. New parents, you are so brave.

You struggled to get pregnant or stay pregnant. 

You were surprised by a pregnancy. 

You weathered pregnancy complications that were painful and scary. 

You breathed through one more contraction when you thought you couldn’t do it anymore.

You pushed one more time when you were absolutely exhausted and your baby was born.

You laid down in a cold operating room and endured major surgery to bring your baby into the world.

You joined the millions of parents who came before you.

You watched as your partner coped with pain you had never seen before and you trusted her instincts.

You asked for help when you just wanted to be able to do it by yourself.

You fed your baby from your body.

You gave your baby formula when it wasn’t your plan, so she would grow.

You pressed on when you lost everything in your birth plan.

You took beautiful care of your new baby through exhaustion and frustration.

You set boundaries for your new family and limited visitors when you needed to.

You knew your limits and you made hard choices.

You went back to work when you just wanted to stay home with your baby a little longer.

Every day in big and little ways, you are brave for your family and it’s an honor to get to witness that as your doula. On days where it feels like you can’t possibly keep at it or things aren’t going the way you imagined, reframe your thinking and own the ways you have been brave.